How to Succeed with your New Year’s Resolutions?
Those New Year’s Resolutions…
Lots of people have New Year’s resolutions to lose weight, start a workout program, become healthier or have other desires to achieve in the new year. Most of those people who actually try to make changes like starting a workout program or a diet, fall back into the old routine by the end of January or February. How to succeed with your New Year’s Resolutions? And…
..why don’t people stay on track and stick to their goals?
It’s because it’s not only hard work, but it also takes dedication, consistency, patience, determination and a good reason to do it. Pushing through and achieving a goal – losing weight, getting in shape, becoming fit- requires just as much flexibility as rigidity.
What do I mean by that? For example, what if something unexpected comes up in your life, (personal, work, health-related) and you can’t follow through on your workout plan for a whole week or more? If you were only strict, you would feel like a failure right away. That’s when flexibility comes in. When you’re flexible in situations like this, it helps you to get back on track. It’s also extremely important not to be too flexible because then you become too soft, and you won’t have the urgency and the fire needed to do the work. If you always leave it for tomorrow and become a procrastinator, your goals will never become your reality.
Another problem is that people don’t map out their goals. They don’t take time to analyze the problems, the challenges that come with changing habits. They don’t work through it, so they don’t really understand what they must to do to achieve what they want.
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Or, their motivation isn’t strong enough. If you don’t have a good enough reason to change your life -to lose weight, or to become fit- and daily habits, then what will get you going on the days when “you just don’t feel like it.” For example, pregnant woman will do anything to keep their baby healthy: taking prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, not smoking, drinking, or not drinking coffee. They would do more for their child (hopefully) than what they would do for themselves because it’s a strong enough reason for them!
To create something different in your life, you need to change the way you do things.
You can’t do the same things you always have because they got you where you are today. So, you really need to know what hasn’t worked in your life in order to change it. What are the things you do on a day-to-day basis that resulted in your being at this place in your life today? Are you unhappy with your body, health, job situation, relationships, financials?
Take time to think about it and look at how you spend your days. What are the things that served you in the past and what are the things you’d like to change? Without having awareness and knowledge of your life, you’re only doing guesswork. There are enough challenges trying to change habits, and guessing will make this journey much more painful.
When you’ve thought it out, think about your future. What would you like to achieve? What do you imagine your life like? Why do you want to lose weight? Why is it important for you to feel better and be healthier? Why do you want to get fit?
Then, think about how to achieve that? How do you have to change your attitude your daily routine to finally live the life and have the body and health you desire?
Map it out! Make a daily, weekly, monthly plan! Have daily tasks you need to follow through on! Have your workouts ready, your whole week planned and scheduled. No excuses but with some flexibility.
Know that your life won’t change unless you do. Your life only produces the same exact things you put into it. When you take full responsibility, without beating yourself up about it, you have a chance to change.
Now this is all great. You have a plan; you have a good enough reason, right? And for some reason, you’re still not following through.
You want to change the way you feel about your body, you want to feel healthy, you want to feel good, light, you want to feel strong, you want to lose weight, get fit etc., you made the plan, you have the details worked out, you got help (a support group, friends), and you even hire a professional to help you, but you’re still not doing the work; you’re still not achieving your goals!
After all…The plan is still not working! Why?
I have met a lot of people who weren’t lazy, who worked extremely hard day in and day out, sometimes even too hard, and they still don’t achieve their goals.
Why is that?
Well, when you decide to better yourself, to do something for yourself, if you don’t think you’re worth it, will you ever really do it? Will you go the extra mile? Will you keep up when you feel hopeless?
For instance, if there’s someone you don’t like in your life, you resent this person a bit, you even get repulsed by him/her, would you do anything for her/him? Would you get up early to take care of this person, or would you put extra work in for her/him? Would you care for her/him? Would you be kind to him/her? Would you be forgiving, flexible enough, strict enough, determined, consistent, hard-working, loving, caring?
Do you see how all this planning holds no ground at all, unless you know you’re worth it?
How to Succeed with your New Year’s Resolutions?
If you’re someone with low self-esteem, low or no self-worth, you won’t get up early, you won’t change, you won’t do the work. Because your willpower will burn out eventually and something else will have to take its place. And that is SELF-LOVE and SELF-WORTH!
Your plans are most likely built on the belief that “I’m not good enough.” I’m not in good enough shape, I’m not pretty enough, I’m not successful enough, I’m not……enough.”
This belief has to shift before your willpower burns out, and you end up giving up on the plan.
Think about it: What do you do to a person who you’re crazy in love with? Wouldn’t you do everything for that person?
The other problem is that sometimes people try to fix something that is not broken and they are not paying attention to the things that needs it!
Well, start working on loving yourself and do the work! Wake up every morning and ask yourself: What can I do for myself if I were in love with myself? Even if you don’t feel self-love, it might help you to take action. “Fake it until you make it.” Who knows, throughout the process you might learn to accept and love yourself!
When you make this shift, the journey that was full of struggle and self-resentment will turn into this peaceful journey, full of love, and feelings of contentment.
If you want something, really want it, get to work! Even if you don’t truly believe it just yet, you’re worth it!
Good luck! I wish you a joyful, prosperous new year!
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